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We. Are. FetLife!

Not to be confused with the Spartans.

Meet the Team

A beautifully diverse group of kinksters that care deeply about the community and FetLife's mission.

JohnBaku44M Dom
North Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
I keep shit tight
Pairadox60M Dom
Ostional, Guanacaste, Costa Rica
I help people.
J_63M Switch
Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
I help people.
Gypsy56F Sensualist
Athens, Georgia, United States
I help people.
United Kingdom
I help people.
Flame_Hel46M Master
Tbilisi, Tbilisi, Georgia
I help people.
MrsLectr30F sub
Chicago, Illinois, United States
I help people.
PlatinumBubble39F Primal Prey
Ostional, Guanacaste, Costa Rica
I help people.
DarthDrogo31M Dom
Raleigh, North Carolina, United States
I help people.
WaitForDark31F Switch
Charlotte, North Carolina, United States
I help people.
ThatElfGuy36 Switch
Avon, Ohio, United States
I help people.
AlexLB36M Dom
Beirut, Lebanon
I help people.
FeroLucem46M Top
Sofia, Sofia, Bulgaria
I help people.
GreenRabbit30M Exploring
Bratislava, Bratislava, Slovakia
I write code
Jennaaayyy45F Sadomasochist
Tuscaloosa, Alabama, United States
I help people.
DarklingMuse34 Sadist
Gloucestershire, United Kingdom
I help people.
AliceTryx29F Doll
Dundee, United Kingdom
I help people.
RedTri44M Kinkster
Lawrence, Kansas, United States
I help people.
Veshira33FtM Kinkster
Prospect Park, New Jersey, United States
I help people.
Anttiray33M Kinkster
Kent, United Kingdom
I write code
R4mon30M Fetishist
West Flanders, Belgium
I support the team
JLST_131M Dom
West Flanders, Belgium
I sell ads
Ristrodin30M Top
Rijswijk, South Holland, Netherlands
I write code
Firecraxer50F Toy
Kilkenny, Kilkenny, Ireland
I help people.
shone2338M Sensualist
Belgrade, Stari Grad, Serbia
I design experiences
Fleur25F Switch
I help people.
CutieHoney33F Princess
Florida, United States
I help people.
shrunkenships38M Exploring
Philipsburg, Sint Maarten, Sint Maarten
I help people.
Queensland, Australia
I help people.
Kharkiv, Kharkiv, Ukraine
I help people.
FetLife's Mission

“To help people feel comfortable with who they are sexually.”

Our Core Values

As a team we live by our values in everything we do.

Community Driven

  • Focus on projects that have the highest impact on the community relative to effort.
  • Make incremental experience refinements where the improvement is worth the relearning.
  • Listen to our members, understand where they are coming from, and then over-deliver.
  • Be an active member of FetLife so that you can better empathize with other members.
  • Be inspired by the community and its beautiful diversity.

Work Hard, Work Smart

  • Never stop looking for a better solution.
  • It is okay to make mistakes, just always make sure to learn from them.
  • Focus on our mission and goals, don’t get caught up in tasks.
  • Diagnose problems to get to the root cause.
  • Make sure to re-question assumptions.
  • When dealing with the same issue multiple times, find a permanent solution.
  • Take pride in, and ownership of, whatever you’re working on.
  • Don’t worry about looking good - worry about achieving our goals.
  • Always work on improving yourself and your craft.

Teamwork Makes The Dream Work

  • Hold each other to high standards and work through any disagreements.
  • Have thoughtful disagreements to both learn from, and increase the odds of, making good decisions.
  • Disagree, but when a decision has been made, move forward united as one team.
  • Team morale and smooth functioning take precedence over your need to be right - besides, you could be wrong.
  • If you run into a problem, reach out to someone who has the authority to solve your problem. Never complain or gossip.
  • Hold yourself and the people around you accountable, and appreciate the people around you for holding you accountable.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

  • Without exception, be respectful to each member of the team.
  • Listen and try to understand everyone’s viewpoint before reacting.
  • Be truthful and straightforward in your feedback with everyone.
  • Have strong opinions weakly held, while remaining open-minded.
  • Provide constant and accurate feedback to your teammates and the organization.

Do the Right Thing

  • Do it right, or don’t do it at all.
  • Doing the right thing is almost always more important than following a process.
  • Quickly recognize and admit mistakes when you’ve made them.
  • If something goes wrong, don't pass the buck, take responsibility.
  • Never put comfort ahead of success, it produces worse results for everyone.

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